The whole purpose of family life in Krsna consciousness is to advance spiritually. When a materialistic person enters into family life, he is called “grhamedhi”, because his idea is to just increase his sense enjoyment. On the other hand, a devotee is called “grihastha” because his goal is to advance spiritually. His family life is an ashram, a base from which to advance to higher spheres of devotional service.
The difficult thing about family life in Krsna Consciousness is that it involves combining two things that may look incompatible at first: taking care of the material needs of a family and practicing a spiritual process.
Frequently we see these as two separate things, and as a result, we focus on one to the detriment of the other, or taking good care of our families but forgetting Krsna, or becoming very serious about sadhana and other aspects of devotional life but neglecting our families.
I remember once speaking with a second-generation devotee who narrated how sometimes his mother would be very engaged in serving in the temple and as a result, neglect taking care of the house, and how this led him to grow up having a negative image of devotees, seeing them as rivals for the attention of his mother, something that took him a long time to get over with. Many of us may commit similar mistakes.
What is the solution then? Considering our limited attention span, how can we do both things simultaneously? As always, the Bhagavad-Gita can give us some insight.
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